Here’s a tip that you can only learn by going through it.
If you’ve reached the point where you’ve had to put your loved one in a home (assisted living or one that specializes in Alzheimer’s patients), visit as often as you can. The obvious reason is because they are your loved ones. But there is another important and overlooked reason.
No matter how good the home was when you first went there to look around, or when your loved one moved in, things can and do change. The only way you will know if problems arise is if you are there enough to notice it yourself. Trust me, if problems come up, they are not going to call you or send you a letter letting you know.
When mom moved into the home she lived in, it had a reputation as one of the best in the area. There were a couple of problems, but they were quickly corrected. I felt good about the care she was receiving. Your comfort level about the home cannot be overstated.
Then the Executive Director left and a new one arrived. From day one, things went quickly and dramatically downhill. To the point that they were found guilty of neglect by the California Department of Social Services. Problems weren’t corrected. Just a lot of empty promises.
If you visit once a month or every couple of weeks for a couple of hours, you’d never notice anything was wrong. Take an active part in your loved ones care. Are they getting the right medication? Is it being dispensed properly? Is there adequate supervision on group outings? Are maintenance and repairs handled in an appropriate time frame? Is the staff following your doctors orders? Is your loved one getting the quality of care they should be?
You don’t need to be aggressive or demanding. Just take an active part so that they know you will notice if they don’t take their responsibilities seriously.
In case you were wondering, the problem Executive Director did get replaced.
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